THE SINGLE GIRL PLAYBOOK
THE ULTIMATE TRANSFORMATION
YOUR STEP-BY-STEP GUIDE TO BECOMING THE HAPPIEST, HIGHEST VERSION OF YOURSELF — IN AND OUT OF LOVE
You don’t want another fluffy self-help book.
You want a tool. A roadmap. A shift.
Something that helps you feel less stuck, less unsure, and more like you again.
Whether you’re single by choice or by circumstance, one thing is clear:
You’re ready to stop waiting for life to begin.
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This Playbook is the full journey — the deep work, the dating reframe, the clarity, the confidence, the glow-up.
It’s not about finding the one.
It’s about becoming her.
SO... WHAT EXACTLY IS IT?
The Single Girl Playbook: The Ultimate Transformation is a beautifully structured, two-part self-development and dating guide for women ready to reclaim their power, define what happiness looks like for them, and create a life (and love life) that feels aligned.
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It combines mindset work, reflective prompts, practical tools, and empowering content across two core phases:
PART ONE | THE SELF-WORK EDITION
This is your internal glow-up — the part where your clarity, confidence, and self-trust are rebuilt from the ground up
CHAPTER ONE | BE THE LOVE OF YOUR OWN LIFE
​You’ve spent enough time looking for “the one.” In this chapter, you’ll learn to become her — the one who chooses herself first, fills her own cup, and doesn’t wait to be loved to feel love.
CHAPTER TWO | ROCKING THE SOLO LIFE
Learn how to plan solo dates with a practical step-by-step guide including 15 tips to help you feel more comfortable and confident on your own.
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Treat yourself right but taking yourself on one of the suggested 20+ solo date ideas for all budgets.
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This chapter flips the script: you’re not “alone,” you’re in your era of becoming.
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Fall back in love with your own company. Learn how to create moments of joy, confidence and calm — just you, no plus-one required. From solo brunches to booking that bucket-list trip, this chapter helps you feel confident doing it all — on your own and on your terms.
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CHAPTER THREE | DEFINING YOUR PERSONAL VALUES
Identify your values with a comprehensive questionnaire including a list of 60+ suggested values to choose from.
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Lear how to apply your values in romantic and platonic relationships. Explore what compromise vs. sacrifice looks like for three key values.
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Uncover values in action with 20 examples for clear communication, growth, independence and financial security.
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If you don’t know what you stand for, you’ll keep falling for everything.
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No more shape-shifting to fit into someone else’s life. This chapter helps you uncover what truly matters to you — so your decisions, boundaries, and relationships reflect who you are, not who you think you need to be.
CHAPTER FOUR | GOAL SETTING FOR SUCCESS
Set yourself up for success with one of the 20+ goal suggestions for independent women.
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2 comprehensive exercises to help you set and achieve your goals including reusable goal setting templates.
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Goals aren’t just checkboxes — they’re stepping stones to your dream life.
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Set goals that actually light you up — not ones that come from pressure, perfectionism, or someone else’s timeline. This chapter helps you take aligned action with confidence, clarity, and zero burnout.
CHAPTER FIVE | SETTING AND MAINTAINING BOUNDARIES
Explore 14 examples of boundaries and learn why boundaries matter in romantic and platonic relationships.
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Uncover the 15 examples of boundaries being crossed in the early stages of dating and become more self aware.
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Learn about the 10 common deal breakers in romantic and platonic relationships and access 10+ scripts to effectively express your boundaries.
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If saying “yes” when you mean “no” has left you drained, this chapter is your turning point.
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Let go of guilt and give yourself permission to honour your needs. This chapter guides you through setting healthy, loving boundaries that protect your peace without disconnecting from the people you care about.
RECONNECT WITH YOU BEFORE YOU INVITE SOMEONE ELSE IN
PART TWO | THE DATING EDITION
This is your external glow-up — where your energy, alignment, and standards lead the way, not desperation or default patterns
CHAPTER SIX | TEXTING WITH INTENT
​Stop spiraling over texts and start owning the conversation with 16+ texting scenarios including, "what are we? (how to ask and answer the question)", "responding to 'sorry, I've been busy' — send texts that clearly communicate your worth and expectations.
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150+ suggested texts across 16+ scenarios that you can copy and paste with ease — these suggested texts are the inspiration you need to clearly communicate your standards.
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Stop overthinking every message! Texting shouldn’t feel like a mind game. This chapter teaches you how to bring clarity, intention, and self-respect into every conversation stay grounded in your worth — no more chasing validation in the chat.
CHAPTER SEVEN | RATE YOUR DATES
3 REUSABLE TEMPLATES FOR ALL STAGES OF DATING
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THE BEFORE MEETING TEMPLATE
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This template helps you quickly sanity-check your excitement before you meet up.
It guides you to pause and ask, "am I excited about them, or just the idea of having a date? And are their communication habits, vibe, and values matching my standards before we invest more time?"
It’s all about making sure you’re not overlooking red flags just because you're bored, lonely, or feeling optimistic.
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THE FIRST DATE REVIEW TEMPLATE
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This template walks you through a short, honest debrief after the first date.
It prompts you to reflect on, "how you felt during and after the date (energised, drained, confused, excited?) and any green flags, yellow flags, or straight-up red flags you might be tempted to ignore".
This helps you avoid over-romanticising someone based on one good night.
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THE DATE OR DITCH QUESTIONNAIRE
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This is the ultimate reality check: a fast but powerful series of questions to help you decide whether to continue or cut it off.
It pushes you to assess things like, "are they meeting your core values and deal-breakers?", "are they consistently showing effort and respect, not just when it's convenient?", and "are you chasing feelings, or actually building something mutual?"
It’s cheeky but brutally smart — it saves you from wasting time or getting stuck in "maybe" land.
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Was it a vibe… or are you the whole damn vibe? This chapter helps you figure out if the date was special — or if you were just carrying the conversation and the chemistry (again).
This powerful framework helps you assess chemistry vs. compatibility (without texting all your friends for a second opinion).
CHAPTER EIGHT | NAVIGATING DATING BUZZWORDS
Explore the 60+ dating buzzwords and their meaning as you navigate this crazy world of dating!
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From "ghosting" to "groundhogging," and the mysterious "dogfishing," we've got all the lingo you need to keep up with the ever-evolving dating game.
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New label, same old games.
This chapter teaches you how to dodge the rebranded red flags and call a situationship exactly what it is: a waste of your time.
CHAPTER NINE | MINDFUL MOMENTS
Blank pages for journaling your wins, lessons, and growth — a space to reconnect with yourself and remember just how far you’ve come.
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​​​Slow down, breathe, and come back to you.
This chapter is your cozy corner for reflection — helping you stay true to your standards and protect your peace while dating.
DATE LIKE A WOMAN WHO KNOWS HER WORTH
STILL NOT SURE IT’S FOR YOU?
Let’s talk about who this is really for...
You're tired of chasing potential — in people, in relationships, and in yourself.
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You’re constantly asking, “Is it me?” after every failed connection.
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You’ve lost sight of what makes you happy when you’re not dating.
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You want tools, not just quotes. Transformation, not just talk.
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You’re ready to stop outsourcing your joy to a man, a relationship, or a milestone.
120+ pages of guided prompts, reflections, and frameworks
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A proven structure that gently leads you from confusion to clarity
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A printable format or keepsake-quality physical copy (your choice!)
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Lifelong tools you’ll return to in every season of self-discovery and love
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Built-in flexibility — start from the beginning, or jump to what you need right now
WHAT YOU GET
The Playbook is designed to meet you where you are — and help you rise from there
THIS IS NOT FOR YOU IF...
You’re looking for a quick fix or someone else to do the work
You want dating “rules” that promise to land you a man
You’re not ready to be radically honest with yourself
But if you’re ready to stop feeling stuck, silenced, or small — this is your sign!
WHAT WOMEN ARE SAYING
"I'm not lowering my standards anymore. I'm raising the bar and loving it." — Anonymous
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"For the first time, I feel like my single life isn’t something to survive — it’s something to celebrate." — Kate
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“This felt like sitting down with the big sister I never had.” — Anonymous
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"I’m not wasting energy proving I'm worth loving anymore. If he doesn’t get it, next." — Frankie
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"I’m building a life I love so much, dating finally feels like a bonus, not a necessity." — Anonymous
Because it’s not just about self-love. It’s about self-leadership.
You’re not just journaling — you’re learning to listen to your intuition, to your patterns, to your dreams.
You’re getting the kind of clarity that changes how you show up in every area of your life — not just your dating app profile
WHY IT WORKS
ONE LAST THING…
This isn’t a playbook to “fix” you.
It’s the one that reminds you,
you were never broken!
ARE YOU READY TO PUT YOURSELF FIRST?
Perfect for the woman who likes flexibility, the digital version allows you to print out sections and exercises as you go, or easily access everything on your tablet or phone, making it convenient to reflect and revisit key parts whenever and wherever you need.
Designed for the woman who loves the feel of a book in hand, the physical copy is ideal for writing directly on the pages as you keep track of your progress. You can easily flip back and forth through the chapters as you work through the exercises at your own pace.​
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The hard copy of The Single Girl Playbook is printed and shipped by Amazon
Because you’re done with half-effort love, waiting to be chosen, and second-guessing your worth.
The Single Girl Playbook isn’t about finding someone — it’s about finding yourself, owning your standards, and setting the damn bar higher. This is your permission slip to stop settling, start thriving, and rewrite your dating story with main character energy.